Why Not Me?
In his book, Good Call: Reflections on Faith, Family, and Fowl, Jase Robertson, who you may know from Duck Dynasty, writes about the adversity of his daughter’s health while she was still in the womb. “We asked, ‘Why is this happening to us?’ It was three or four months of misery.” This is often a question people ask when bad things happen; we start to think about what we did to deserve what’s happening to us. (Which is interesting for the Christian since we know it’s not about what we deserve when we think about the saving grace of Jesus Christ, so why would the bad stuff be about what we deserve?) But Jase and his wife, Missy, had a revelation: “But after the initial shock, we began to say, ‘You know what? We are not going to ask, ‘Why us?’ We are going to ask ‘Why not us?’ (…) Our trust in God allows us the ability to overcome any obstacles that come our way.”
When I read that I felt challenged to live by the mantra myself. Why not me? When cancer threatens, why not me? When paperwork is not completed and simple tasks become more difficult, why not me? It’s a healthy outlook for the Christian because it is a statement of faith. I have the Holy Spirit within me and I am working to grow the fruits of the Holy Spirit each day. I have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, my eternal destiny is secure and I talk with the Father God on a daily basis, so why not me? You wouldn’t ask a child to hold a one hundred pound bar over their head—you’d ask an adult, and preferably one who works out consistently and is strong enough to hold a one hundred pound bar. So when things go bad, and you believe that God is in control, then you can rest knowing that He knows you can handle what’s coming.
“Each time he said, ‘My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.’ So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.” (2 Corinthians 12:9)
“When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you.” (Isaiah 43:2)
“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” (Romans 8:28)
If we truly believe these verses, then asking ourselves, “Why not me?” should be easy. In John 9, we have an example of the disciples asking, “Why him?” They come across a man who was blind from birth, and the disciples ask Jesus what this man did to deserve to be born blind. They ask if he sinned or his parents.
“‘It was not because of his sins or his parents’ sins,’ Jesus answered. ‘This happened so the power of God could be seen in him.’” (John 9:3)
And there is the key. It’s not because of anything you did, but it may very well be so the power of God could be seen in you. It’s how you handle the situation, it’s how you respond to the situation. When you are met with a frustrating circumstance because of someone else, show that person grace and demonstrate patience. Use every inconvenient situation as an opportunity to grow in the fruits of the Spirit.
“But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!” (Galatians 5:22-23)
The next time you feel like asking, “Why me?” remember that God is always with you, always fighting for you; see the moment as an opportunity to grow some of the fruits of the Spirit and instead, ask yourself, “Why not me?”
May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.