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“So you must live as God’s obedient children. Don’t slip back into your old ways of living to satisfy your own desires. You didn’t know any better then. But now you must be holy in everything you do, just as God who chose you is holy.”

- 1 Peter 1:14-15


Everyone’s Secret Life

Everyone’s Secret Life

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The two choices we have in dictating our behavior in this life are the sinful nature and the nature of the Holy Spirit. If we reject God, and thus the Holy Spirit, then we’ve chosen the sinful nature. In Romans 1, Paul goes through a list of all the things he is seeing people do after rejecting God. 

“And instead of worshiping the glorious, ever-living God, they worshiped idols made to look like mere people and birds and animals and reptiles. So God abandoned them to do whatever shameful things their hearts desired. As a result, they did vile and degrading things with each other’s bodies.” (Romans 1:23-24)

Something we’ve discussed before is that God loves us too much to force us into a relationship with Him. He will leave the 99 and chase after the 1, for as Jesus taught in Matthew 18, “…it is not my heavenly Father’s will that even one of these little ones should perish.” As the parable of the prodigal son teaches us, if we wander from God, He waits patiently for our return. It is not love if someone forces you into a relationship with him or her; usually that’s called stalking. Love is giving someone free will to choose you or reject you. This is what God does for us, and in Romans 1 Paul is describing people who have rejected God.

“They traded the truth about God for a lie. (…) That is why God abandoned them to their shameful desires. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other. And the men, instead of having normal sexual relations with women, burned with lust for each other. Men did shameful things with other men, and as a result of this sin, they suffered within themselves the penalty they deserved.” (Romans 1:25-27)

So without God there is sin. This is the same logic we see throughout the Bible. This is the constant battle without the Holy Spirit, and when we reject God we are left with only our sinful nature. 

“Their lives became full of every kind of wickedness, sin, greed, hate, envy, murder, quarreling, deception, malicious behavior, and gossip. They are backstabbers, haters of God, insolent, proud, and boastful. They invent new ways of sinning, and they disobey their parents. They refuse to understand, break their promises, are heartless, and have no mercy. They know God’s justice requires that those who do these things deserve to die, yet they do them anyway. Worse yet, they encourage others to do them, too.” (Romans 1:29-32) 

That is quite a description and unfortunately it sounds too familiar to the world around us. America has been rejecting God since 1962 with devastating and measurable results. Sometimes people who do not have a relationship with God call this passage judgmental; sometimes Christians pound their chests and use this passage to condemn people. But before we get defensive or offensive, we need to keep reading as Paul continues in Romans 2. 

“You may think you can condemn such people, but you are just as bad, and you have no excuse! When you say they are wicked and should be punished, you are condemning yourself, for you who judge others do these very same things. And we know that God, in his justice, will punish anyone who does such things. Since you judge others for doing these things, why do you think you can avoid God’s judgment when you do the same things? Don’t you see how wonderfully kind, tolerant, and patient God is with you? Does this mean nothing to you? Can’t you see that his kindness is intended to turn you from your sin?” (Romans 2:1-4)

God is so patient and kind to us to give us time to return to Him. This is what we see from the father in the prodigal son story: God patiently waits for our return and His kindness is intended for us to turn from our sin; if you’ve been trapped in your sin then you know that Satan, the one who led you to the trap and wants to keep you there, is anything but kind. How can Paul say that we are just as bad?

 “For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard.” (Romans 3:23)

Jesus did not come to condemn people (John 3:17) and neither should we condemn people, for we are no better. And here is the warning that Paul gives us:

“But because you are stubborn and refuse to turn from your sin, you are storing up terrible punishment for yourself. For a day of anger is coming, when God’s righteous judgment will be revealed. He will judge everyone according to what they have done.” (Romans 2:5-6)

It is the action of turning from sin that is the key. We cannot continue to live in sin and expect our inheritance of eternal life in Heaven.

“Anyone who continues to live in him will not sin. But anyone who keeps on sinning does not know him or understand who he is.” (John 3:6)

If you still have a secret life that you are keeping hidden from your spouse, fiancée, girlfriend, boyfriend, parents, or anyone that this secret life sins against, please take Paul’s message to heart.

“And this is the message I proclaim—that the day is coming when God, through Christ Jesus, will judge everyone’s secret life.” (Romans 2:16)

God is coming soon and he will judge everyone’s secret life. It’s not secret from God and it should not be secret from those you are sinning against. Rid yourself of this secret, sinful life. Give it all to God, surrender to Him and choose the Holy Spirit daily! Check our article archives for help on how to do this or send us a note through our contact tab; we’d be glad to help you.

May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.


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